Punishment and rewards are faces of the same coin.
When playing with non violent communication we get to understand that the game of who is right is an evil game. 

Becoming more conscious about where we are and what we are doing is not close to understand why we do what we do. 

When we think about being able to belong and become 100% who we are, without waiting for approval, it’s a whole different game to be played. 

This comes together with vulnerability and understanding our limits. We accept a lot of violence and we accept people who behave without respect, without seeing us. 

We do things because we are told to. Really? Can you be responsible for what you do? Why do we choose to divide ourselves in responsibility and accountability? Can’t we only be responsible for what we choose to? Are you able to define that in your context? 

Here are some questions I would like you to read: 
Can you listen to what I’m saying? 
Can you stop playing the who’s right and wrong game? 
Can you understand I’m doing my best here? 
Can you feel me? 

And here’s a challenge for you: 
Do those questions above looking at the mirror. See what happens. 🙂

Those are powerful questions. They helped me to understand where I am. Journaling is being a good friend too. Being able to write what I’m feeling and thinking every day is a great achievement in my context. 

If you need any help, I’m here to listen. 

— Daniel Wildt

If you have the time listen to 10mins or more from Marshall Rosenberg, there are good videos from his workshops available online and audiobooks available.